And you may ask yourself, where does that highway go?

What is more important – logic and planning or feeling? I always thought I valued logic over feeling. One should base their decisions on careful thoughts and shouldn’t act on gut feelings, instincts or emotions, right?

However, I’ve realized that all my decision making and planning has been due to feelings anyway. Through introspection I’ve decided to take necessary courses of action. Is this not the same as simply acting upon feelings and emotions? Would my life be any different if I acted more impulsively or would I end up with the same results?

As I sit here and type this I ask myself what I’m currently doing with my life. I’m happy to be here and I have a lot to be thankful for, but I believe that there is a greater purpose for me out there; I can feel it. How do I figure out what that purpose is and how do I get there?

My feelings and emotions tell me that sitting here at this desk is not the answer, but my logical side tells me I should be happy because I do have a job, and many people are less fortunate.

I’m fearful of becoming complacent. This is not what I want or see in my future. This is never what I saw in my future. It may sound cliché but who am I and what have I become? Perhaps my choices don’t always have to be so judicious. I need to be more welcoming of feelings, emotions, and love if I want to find my deeper meaning.

Analog boy in a digital world

So, I’m not ashamed to admit that I waste countless hours on the internet. As most of us are, I’m unfortunately a slave to technology. I don’t absolutely detest the World Wide Web though; it has served me fairly well. I’ve made various (good) friendships online. It may sound kind of silly coming from someone who has had pretty good luck online, but I absolutely hate this whole online dating ordeal.

It isn’t hard to tell that most online dating and social media profiles are orchestrated very carefully. We all assume we have to be a certain type of person to attract the type of person we want, but that just seems so unnatural to me. We craftily answer our questions and state our likes and dislikes, in hopes that we may spark someone’s interest.

What are we really achieving by doing that though? We are turning ourselves into concepts. We aren’t people anymore. We aren’t feelings or emotions. We are what we like (or what we supposedly enjoy, according to our profiles). In my opinion, this is the recipe for disaster and extreme disappointment.

Apparently there is an unwritten rule in the online dating world that states that you should give up on courting an individual if plans haven’t been made after a few messages or conversations.

Why in the world would I want to meet with a complete stranger because they asked me how my day was and because I like the concept of what this person may be?

So you like craft beer, Sleater Kinney and Nolan movies? That’s cool. I do as well, but so did one of my ex boyfriends and he was a complete asshole. I’m not an asshole though, so your fondness for beer, music and movies tells me nothing about you other than the fact that you may or may not be a jerk.

I’m not really sure where I was going with this, or how I would even improve the online dating world. I’m just extremely baffled as to how it is set up and how it’s accepted to be. It seems to be an extremely frivolous way to meet someone.

Back to Bermuda....

We (collectively) were able to spend 6 lovely nights in Bermuda this past July. It really is the perfect place to have some rum (or in my case, sip on some wine!), unwind and relax in a beautiful setting for a few days. We stayed in St. George’s this time around and I am very happy we did so. The south shore beaches are absolutely beautiful but the quaint, historic charm of St. George’s always brings us back there.

Outside our vacation rental in St. George's

Tobacco Bay, St. George's

Warwick Long Bay

Horseshoe Bay Beach

St. George's Harbor

Downtown St. George's